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  So far, I've been getting some good responses to my call a couple of weeks ago for help with guy obsessions. Our question this week: What do you do if your friend(s) is being slutty? On one level, it's none of your business, but if you feel like her risky behavior is putting her or others in jeopardy, should you speak up? Here's one reader's problem:
How about it, readers? Any advice for this troubled friend? We'll feature your responses in a couple of weeks. The last part of the issue today is all about relationships, but not the boyfriend kind: it's about being a great friend! The letters I've gotten so far are about men, yes, but they're also written by concerned friends who see someone they care about doing something that is troubling. Friends are so important! I'm amazed by how few online sites pay attention to this crucial role we play! Perhaps now is a good time to recommit yourself to being a great friend. If you have any great sites to recommend or comments on what you would like to see in this newsletter, please feel free to contact us. Sincerely, Betsy Boyd and Amy Taylor Co-Editors, FemmeJolie Opposites Attract... 
Are you primed to attract the opposite sex? Maybe you're humorous or
gentle, then again, maybe you aren't. Find out what your personality
is saying to the other gender? You might get a giggle from the
grammar, too...it doesn't seem as though the writer is a native
English speaker.
Can You Attract The Opposite Sex? Get Over It! As I mentioned a couple of issues back, a young woman wrote in:
I had a lot of different responses from other readers: Judy wrote: My recommendation is for you, her friend, to try and get her unobsessed. You can support her in understanding her feelings, but how about helping her get interested in someone else? Go with her to try and meet new guys and definitely not where you are going to run into the "lost cause".. |
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For ad details and prices... susan@FemmeJolie.com  Nicole wrote:
If you want to be a good friend, you'll support her through all her decisions and not be judgmental. Nobody likes to see anyone they care about hurt. But it's her life...not everyone will get what they want but they will learn something along the way and hopefully it will be finding out who their true friends are Mary wrote: I know she doesn't want to feel like she's in therapy, but taking drugs and making herself miserable is NOT the answer. Talking and working through things is. And if it's still the same story, then move on with life and decide that if he doesn't want her, then it's his loss. Golden Rules of Friendship... It seems logical, but there are a number of areas of our friendships where we get blind spots and forget to do unto our best girls as we'd have them do to us. Who says you have to wait for an occasion to show your appreciation! Here's a quick list of some great things to do for the girls who are great to you: 1) Save Up and Sneak: Call her at work and find out how her day is going. Crappy? Sneak out at lunch and leave a Secret-Santa style Crappy Day Kit with her receptionist. Make sure the receptionist knows who you are so you won't get pegged for a stalker, but swear her to secrecy. To include: Pick ingredients that match her taste (and your budget). How about a little Mr. Bubble, a trashy novel, a reviving CD, and a great bath towel. Include a note that reassures her that you don't expect to be repaid, but that she should pass along the favor, Pay-it-Forward-style. 2) Meet and Treat: What if her day was great and she's in the mood to celebrate? Meet for drinks or dinner and insist on paying the whole check. The waiter will love it (no split checks!), and so will your friend. 3) Thanks From the Blue: The next time your friend does even a little favor for you, take the opportunity to write her a real, sincere thank you for being your friend. List some of the great things about her and your friendship, and show her you've been paying attention. 
4) Mix it Up: Technology has jumped ahead enough to let us improve
on the old idea of mix-tapes. I had a friend send me a party care-
package once, complete with my favorite olives (can't get them
here) and salsa specially frozen from my favorite restaurant in
Houston. Also in the box was a mix tape just right to set a party
mood. It was one of the best presents I've ever gotten. Now you
can actually put together a mix-CD. Whichever format you choose,
try to sit down and think of songs that mark your best moments
together. This is definitely a Friend-of-the-Year act. |
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